Quarantine Journals - Kindness, FaceTime

This morning Penny finally had her one on one with her speech teacher. She has been asking to do it but I haven't taken the time to schedule it yet.  She seem to really enjoy chatting with her, and even asked her to help her with her Ws and Rs getting mixed up.  I was honestly surprised to see her self initiating speech therapy, but I will be fully supportive of anything it is that she's wanting to pursue.

Carmen went to Costco to start on a shopping trip for Lynette. I don't remember if I mentioned or not that Lynette was having trouble finding toilet paper and wipes and hand sanitizer, and she had mentioned how difficult it was to do grocery deliveries while on food stamps. So I had messaged Carmen yesterday about helping me do a special delivery of groceries to her apartment.  Carmen was able to get the last package of Clorox wipes even though the store had looked like it was out. I guess people typically grab more than the limit, and they knew to go check with the cashier for any extras. She also got her a large thing of toilet paper, paper towels, and hand sanitizer. In addition to those things, I had given her a list of allergy friendly snacks and some fruits that I thought the Callan would enjoy. She picked those up from Costco, dropped a few things off at our house, and then went by natural grocers to do our shopping list plus a number of additional snacks I had added for Lynette and Callan.

When she had finished there, she dropped off groceries at Lynette's house. I had texted Lynette and told her not to come out of the apartment because we were doing a special delivery. Once they have finished taking everything up the stairs, Carmen knocked on lanette store and let her know that everything was there. I'm not sure exactly how their contact happened because I had told her no contact, but maybe they yelled back-and-forth on the stairs. Carmen sent me a text telling me that Lynette was very grateful and that is it almost made her cry. Then Lynette sent me multiple messages of gratitude, and I was glad that we were able to help her out. She mentioned that they had just run out of toilet paper today and that Callan had been super excited about all the food she could eat.

Deanna and I are still at odds with each other. I've tried multiple times to apologize and move us past it, but she spends a large part of the day ignoring me, and then she'll send me one message, and then go back to ignoring me. I even got to the point where I tried to call her, and video chat her, and left her a voicemail explaining that I would rather just talk and fix things and to keep prolonging it over days.  I confessed to her that the way this is playing out was triggering all sorts of anxiety for me because of how my mom used to shut me out when she was upset, and I hoped that I would at least hear from her or something. But, she sent my call to voicemail, immediately canceled my video chat, and never sent me a message all evening. So, I'm pretty furious with her right now. And I think that I've done everything that I can do, so I will just be staying out of our chat for a while.

While I was trying to get a hold of Deanna, my dad texted and asked if we would like to have a FaceTime. So, despite the fact that it was Penny's bedtime, we all got on the iPad and sat down and chatted with him for a good hour. Penny was actually super excited to have some one on one time with him this time, which was really heartwarming and exciting. He is having a lot of hip and back pain, and anticipates that he's gonna have to go into see a doctor soon. I'm going to try to help him find a good orthopedic doctor to talk to you, or set up an appointment with one of his previous doctors. Via Tele health.  

We talked about the pool, the stock market, the presidents, and Penny school. Oliver was crazy, and at one point I had to get up and go finish the call and another room so that I could hear about what he was experiencing pain wise.

After all that, I got Penny to bed, then talkEd to Richard for a bit and got Oliver to bed. Afterwards, I went back to Marco Polo to catch up on my videos with Rachael. Outside of the large group chat that we had going with all the moms, Rachel and I have been talking on a daily basis about what's been going on in our lives. I found it much more easy to manage and supportive to have these one on one talks with her versus the large group chats that can end up with a ton of messages over the period of 24 hours.  She's been very supportive of my struggles and ceilings over the last few weeks, and she's been having a difficult time herself. So we just chat about how her days are going in offer each other support and encouragement. She sent me a message tonight saying that she wouldn't be able to send a video, but she wanted me to know that I that she felt like Diana was acting in a very unhealthy way about this whole conflict. 

Obviously I agree.

All the potted peppers have new homes! Everything except our arugula is thriving. The sweet potatoes outside are taking off. Lots of plant excitement.